Root Issues- Getting To The Heart Of Your Problems
Lets have a look at root issues- As you are reading this article you are living and creating this experience. As you read the next line, you have now created a sentence that is stored in the past. As you continue to read this article this information enters into your working memory and then will either remain in short or go into long term memory.
Now I am asking if you will please bring to mind some important memories that make up your past. It could be about a best friend, your wedding, moving to a new country, having a child. Why you may ask? The point of this exercise is to get you to pull information from your past into NOW. From the moment you were born your brain has been processing and storing all of your memories. Many may have been positive and others may have been negative memories.
These negative memories and how it is associated to root issues is the topic of this article. I am writing about the topic of root issues because I believe it is at the source of most emotional issues. As you were growing up, it was important that each developmental stage needs were met. If there was a traumatic event, that particular developmental stage would have been affected and created specific negative core beliefs related to that developmental stage.
As you grow up and get older these negative core beliefs become layered with other similar negative core beliefs. This layered process becomes entrenched and affects the way you think about yourself, and other people. It also affects your emotions and behaviors. Some negative core beliefs can be found in these statements “I am unworthy”, “I am unlovable”, “I am defective”, and “I am a failure”, and so on. These negative core beliefs can permeate your current life and you may not even be aware that you are thinking this way because it has become so automatic. Years worth of practicing and repeating has caused these negative core beliefs to be stored in the subconscious mind. This sometimes leads to generational abandonment, so please be cautious.
If you find yourself struggling with low self-esteem, perfectionism, procrastination, depression, anxiety, or addictions, it may be associated with your negative core beliefs. For example, if you repeat subconsciously and believe “I am unworthy” you may continue to struggle with low self-esteem or anxiety root issues. You may feel deep down that you lack self-esteem or can feel your anxiety symptoms, but you may not know that it stems for your own core beliefs. Some mental health issues; however, are more complex and may or may not be related to negative core beliefs. I am talking about core beliefs that are affecting your current life in a negative way. This is often the main cause of root issues.
If your negative core beliefs are affecting you, it is not a far stretch to think that it also can affect your relationships. If the core beliefs are not resolved they can take a life of its own and start affecting your relationships. For instance, if you believe “I am unlovable” you may think and do everything that proves you are and that can include sabotaging your relationships. In turn, that reaffirms your negative core belief “I am unlovable”.
If you can relate to what I am writing and see how your negative core beliefs are affecting your current life, it may be helpful for you to see a counsellor to help you turn your negative core beliefs into positive beliefs. This is not easy work because many of these core beliefs lie hidden in the subconscious mind. It requires a counsellor to help you bring forward these beliefs into your consciousness so that they can be understood as to when and why they were created. The next step is to learn how to let go of these core beliefs, recognize them as misinterpretations of a traumatic event(s) and then replace them with healthy, functioning beliefs. The final step is to keep practicing and repeating these healthy core beliefs so that the negative ones are nothing but a dull noise, if any noise at all.