Trager Massage- Jyotish Marriage Therapy
Attempting to understand a new way of seeing the old world, or different energies previously ignored, can best be stimulated by seeing practical applications. Once we see where knowledge can make our lives easier, we can be more willing to put some effort into trying to understand foreign concepts.
Jyotish is like that, it may be new to many of us but it is an ancient science focusing on human nature and potential. Can Jyotish make our lives perfect? Of course not, perfection of anything depends on our judgements. However Jyotish can provide a perspective we may not have thought about on our own.
As an example, a man recently contacted me with a question about his marriage and the difficulty he is now experiencing with his marriage. He wanted to know how such a sad situation could have happened after 18 years and what could be done about it, if anything?
In order to answer his questions the birth data (day, month, year, place and if possible the time of birth) of himself and his wife had to be supplied. Once calculated, this information provided the insight necessary to compare their individual values, beliefs and expectations. The husband was born: Sept 22, 1965 at 12:57 pm. The wife was born: Dec 8, 1963 at 3:15 am.
Although the location of birth is very important that information will not be given here.
The comparison of the two charts showed the woman to be quite shy and somewhat unable to speak up for herself, whereas her husband had no difficulty expressing himself. Sadly his wife readily took responsibility for anything that wasn’t to his liking and it seemed there were a lot of things he wasn’t pleased about. In reality he liked a lot of things, he just found it hard to praise before criticizing or remarking how any situation could be improved upon. He doesn’t do this because he is unhappy but rather because he felt he is offering helpful suggestions. The people hearing his continually negative comments eventually get worn down, give up and quit caring. This is what happened to his wife, the more she felt hurt, the quieter she became. The quieter she became the more he offered advice on how she ‘should be or how she should be doing something.
Long standing hurts often turn into hard armour and this is what has happened in this case.
Can this marriage be saved? It depends on the willingness of each person to put a hand out to the other. There is no reason for her to live with his perpetual negativity. The emphasis will be on him learning to be supportive and accepting in daily life things just happen, without anyone being the cause. He wants support and expects it, he must learn to be prepared to give what he hopes to get. She will need to learn to speak up and discover what she can be responsible for, and what she can’t.
In this particular case, the underlying problem is more than just his negativity, although that is major, it is more about money and how money is to be dealt with. They have totally different ideas about what is important, so give and take will be called for.
Do the charts look as if they have enough mutual understanding and commitment to stay together? Yes, there were good connections when they first started. Unfortunately due to poor communication and the lack of really understanding the other person, tremendous pain has been inflicted on these two people. The question now is how willing are they to learn a new way of relating? The choice is theirs and only theirs, although tremendous knowledge and guidance resides within their charts they are the ones who have to be willing to hear it and to act on it.